Many times we blame outer circumstance for our problems. What a relief when we can begin to forgive the outer world and release the need to blame anyone, including ourselves. Complaining does not solve our problems. When we relax and release our scolding attitude, we discover that there is nothing and no one left to blame. There's aTaoist story about a man riding in a boat. When his boat is suddenly hit by another boat, the man turns around furiously to yell at the person driving the other boat— but the boat is empty. Who can we blame when there is no one there but us?