When things don't seem to be working out for us, we usually pick someone to blame. Often we pick the people nearest at hand on whom to take out our frustrations. These are the people who support and who love us dearly; yet when it comes time to fight with someone, we always seem to pick these people. Perhaps instinctively we feel that those closest to us will not mind our anger— because they know we don't really mean it. Yet it puts great strain on our relationships to test them in this way. In effect, we are saying, "If you really love me, you should put up with me even when I'm being hostile and unreasonable." Let's enjoy the people in our lives, not inflict our erratic mood changes on them. People are with us because they do care for us— let's make it easy for them to like being with us as well.