When we are traveling on an airline, we are familiar with the flight attendant's instructions: "If the cabin pressure changes, an oxygen mask will drop from the overhead bin. If you are travelling with a small child, first put on your mask before you put the mask on the child." If we stop to think about these instructions, we realize a profound spiritual truth: first we need to get ourselves together before we can be of much help to the others in our lives. Yet we have the tendency to want to 'fix' the people in our lives first, and then we'll get around to getting ourselves clear and free. We live in relationship to help us to see our own spiritual blemishes, not to point out the spiritual faults of another. Buddha said, "Work out your salvation with diligence"— not somebody else's.