BOUNDARIES

A couple once rushed into a dentist's office. The man said to the dentist, "We need a tooth pulled in a hurry. We don't have time for novacaine or gas; we just want it pulled right now." The dentist replied, "You are a very brave man, sir. Let me see the tooth that needs extracting." The man turned to his wife and said, "Show him the tooth, honey." While we may all be part of the oneness of all life, it can be very useful to establish boundaries between ourselves and the people in our lives. No matter how close we feel toward another person, we are not that person, and there are areas of difference between us. We don't have to always agree on everything. Personal integrity means that we establish limits in our relationships. We are each unique individuals in this life; it's OK and even healthy to be different; if we were all the same, how dull and boring this life would be. As we walk our path on this earth as separate beings, it's OK to share our journey with each other as long as we remember that we're not joined to each other at the hip.