When we are too strict and controlling with ourselves, we tend to rebel and not achieve what we set out to accomplish. When we are more allowing and self-accepting, we find it easier for our whole being to unite in changing some attitude or behavior. Carl Jung said, "I must accept myself before I can change." When we are very severe and self-scolding, just like with a small child or animal, we find that we are creating a stubborn resistance to change. Let's just let ourselves be without any need to be different until we are so at peace that we can afford the price of self-change.